The wisdom of the I Ching is accessed through a process of divination – the book tells you what you need to know, when you need to know it. The oracle is not a device for 'fortune telling', but it is instead a kind of 'fortune finding' tool. The wisdom comes to us from two distinct spiritual lineages – Taoist and Confucian.
Tip 8 comes from discussions with a dear friend of mine, Penn Oncology chaplain Kava Schafer:
Tip 8 - The Power of Self Care: Do a few things each week to nourish your spirit
Taking time for self care has been an essential part of how I stay centered. I've found that I need a balance of work and play, and I can't wait only for weekends or days off. During the work week I care so much for others and work so hard that I need to prioritize caring for myself. Kava taught me that you can't always do everything that makes you happy, but if you make a list of all the things that nourish your spirit you can do at least a few of them every week.
This weeks tip is perhaps the most radical and simple of all:
TIP 6- Be Real: Don't pretend you are feeling happy, healthy and peaceful when you're not
Being a good or a spiritual person does not mean being happy, smiley and nice all of the time. This line of thinking is incredibly dangerous. It sounds strikingly similar to the thought that a truly healthy person is a skinny vegan who always wears flowy yoga clothes. I call bullshit on this. Bullshit. BULLSHIT!
This week tip focuses on eating. Eating is an integral part of life and yet it is often overlooked, hurried through, or combined with other tasks. It's essential for our survival and we do it (if we're fortunate) every day, multiple times a day. The power of this week's tip has changed my life, transformed my relationships, and made me feel like a better person. It's simple, easy to do, and in my experience it makes everyone around me feel good. Tip #5: Think Before You Eat - The Attitude of Gratitude. This tip is simple- take some time before you eat to reflect on the food and give heartfelt thanks for the meal.
Face-tweet-ping-text-call-search-smile-keep-busy-calm-and-carry-on seems to be the action of the modern human. Take a break and while your doing it text your family. Return that important phone call to a colleague while you eat lunch. Oh, and when you're back at work try out that new app that lets you tweet, post and ping at the same time. And while you're doing that answer all the incoming emails while you work on that important project. Oh, and lastly, please do it all with a smile and make it look like you are very zen. Forgive me, but that sounds ridiculously, explicatively crazy.
Tip #4- DO ONE THING AT A TIME
This week's tip addresses the myth of multitasking.
This week's tip is a rule in my house for everyone. I can tell you, it works wonders for avoiding fights, sleeping better, and generally having a better end of every day. If you are on an alternative schedule like my amazing niece who works the night shift (shout out if you're reading Marlee!), you might have to alter the timing a little to fit your schedule: Tip #3 - No Logistics After 10pm
Last week I offered my first of 8 easy tips for staying sane in the craziness of a busy life. This week, I'm offering the second tool from my private toolkit. It's one of the best ways I've found to change my mood, release stuck energy (physical or emotional), keep things moving in a positive direction, and cheer up other people when they're in a poopy mood. Tip #2 Institute a Weekly Dance Party...